The Connection Specialist:
Dandelion Quills

Julie Vogler

Dispelling Assumptions About Dismissive Avoidants

Jan 25 min read

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Dispelling Assumptions About Dismissive Avoidants

Avoidants need to feel accepted to even try changing...no one is motivated to change when they feel attacked.

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Dec 28, 202410 min read

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Escaping the Snow Globe Trap

Changing Generational Patterns Changing the Story for the Next Generation In the recently released movie Red One , there's a scene that...

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The Missing Face in the Album: Avoidant Attachment and Camera Shyness

Dec 16, 20247 min read

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The Missing Face in the Album: Avoidant Attachment and Camera Shyness

"My mom was relentless with that thing. Every moment, every event, that camera was in my face."

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What Makes Us Susceptible (Breadcrumbing Pt. 3)

Sep 10, 20249 min read

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What Makes Us Susceptible (Breadcrumbing Pt. 3)

Scarcity masked as abundance skews our calibration, priming us to normalize the bare minimum.

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Jul 25, 20244 min read

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Gut or Ghost

When you're angry, agitated, anxious, or afraid, how do you know if it's your intuition warning you or if the present situation is...

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Jul 9, 20246 min read

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Calm is Code for Functional Freeze

Unaware we are even numb, we operate...and even love...on autopilot.

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Jul 1, 20249 min read

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Every Man For Himself

My whole body went rigid. My lips tingled. I didn’t look over at my boyfriend. I think I forgot he was even there. I was all alone, trapped

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Jun 21, 202412 min read

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Long Distance Nice Guys

Distance can conceal a man's identity from his romantic partner when he is afraid of being fully known. When his dual reality collides, how

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Dec 8, 20234 min read

Don't Cry

We hide our tears so we don't upset others, training ourselves not to feel “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.” I...

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Nov 2, 20233 min read

Hinges

What do our habits tell us about ourselves? Noticing your behavior is key to identifying your subconscious emotions.

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Nov 2, 20234 min read

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Broken Glass

Attention seeking behavior is a child's way to seek connection when feeling invisible or in need of comfort. Choosing to ignore or...

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Nov 2, 20233 min read

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Hit or Miss

Car accidents remind me of how fragile life is. Driving downtown makes me nervous, a labyrinth of one-way streets and construction to...

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Sep 8, 20233 min read

A New and Unexplored World

“Well, I think I’m too gentle to live among wolves. I brought you here today because it’s my 5 year anniversary from the day I chose death…”

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Sep 8, 20231 min read

Wake Up Call

Don't Text and Drive

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Aug 25, 20231 min read

My Inner Child’s Ashes

I laugh as I spin around in the middle of the street, my hands clasped with the woman in front of me. She smiles at me as ashes float around

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Aug 25, 20233 min read

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Independence Day

As I loaded the kids’ belongings into the car, my eyes were drawn to the rebel firework overhead and I thanked God it was Independence Day.

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Aug 10, 20232 min read

To Warm a Child

I was only trying to keep him warm...

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Jun 16, 20235 min read

# 3 Lepidopterophobia (Butterfly Phobia)

Both wings folded back, I was staring at a miniature bat. Its buggy eyes stuck out of its head connected to a grotesque thorax

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